1. Try reaching out.
It hurts especially when we have questions but can not find their answers. You were equally involved in the relationship as the other person was, so you deserve an explanation for everything that happened. Try talking to them but in a polite way. A one on one conversation will help in understanding one another better and discussing the problems and solving them.
2. Accept that you may not get a response.
It may be possible that the other person does not reply or not respond properly. Stop reaching out if this is the case. You have already done what you could to make things better but you do not have to keep asking for communication at the cost of your self respect.
3. You can journal or write a letter.
The worst feeling is when there are things left unsaid, things you want to know but the other person is just not willing to communicate or even if they respond , it is not the way you want them to. The feelings of resentment and grief can take a toll on you. It becomes necessary to let go of all the negativity. So, you cannot talk to them, but you can spill your heart out on a piece of paper. This helps you release all the anger, hurt, pain and move forward in life.
4. Forgiveness is the key.
One has to understand that everyone has insecurities, everyone makes mistakes and no one is all good or bad. Maybe you do not know about the situation they are in, maybe it was hard for them , maybe they have been hurt in the past. Being empathetic and forgiving them not only helps you be at peace but it also make you realize that just as the other person deserve forgiveness and love , so do you . It does not mean you cannot have boundaries and they have to be a part of your life again. Eventually you decide what is best for you.
5. Letting go is important.
You can not wait for something or someone thinking about their potential. You need to let go and have faith that what is meant for you will never be so hard. Relationships are not meant to hurt so much, yes , you should do the best you can to make the bond stronger but one should never force it. Even if it has potential, what matters is at the current moment being stuck is doing no good. So, it will happen if it is meant to be but you have to go with the flow of life and do what is best for you.
6. Focus on yourself.
Maybe it was all his or her fault. Maybe you also made mistakes. Going within helps you not only to understand yourself better but gain a better perspective. Maybe there are things that you need to work upon. You need time and space to get a better understanding of the situation and to grow as a person. Being on your own for sometime is important for you to heal and be ready for new love.
7. Understanding that closure comes from within.
Ever wonder why everyone says closure comes from within? It is because you can know things but as long as you do not accept them , you will always struggle until and unless you let go. For example you know that the other person is not emotionally available and does not communicate properly but you always hope that it will work out someday. Even though their actions clearly indicate that they are not ready, you keep going back to them just because you can not accept it. So it is really important to let go and understand that time heals everything and it will all be okay.
8. Break free from unhealthy patterns.
It is what it is and to become better, you have to take action. There is no other way. So it is only you who can improve your situation. And you cannot expect to get different results if you keep doing the same old things. Try doing new things, creating new memories, working on yourself, creating a routine and focusing on what you can do to improve rather than on what is gone.